During a stop at the Barclays Center in Brooklyn, the former First Lady said that marriage inequality can’t be solved by women “leaning in.”

In front of a large crowd, Obama was commenting whether women can experience equality in both their marriage and workplace.

“Marriage still ain’t equal, y’all,” she said. “It ain’t equal. I tell women that whole ‘you can have it all’ — mmm, nope, not at the same time, that’s a lie. It’s not always enough to lean in because that s**t doesn’t work.”

Michelle then caught herself, but the crowd burst into cheers and applause anyway, “I thought we were at home, y’all,” she joked. “I was gettin’ real comfortable up in here. All right, I’m back now. Sometimes that stuff doesn’t work.”

Michelle Obama’s memoir Becoming just became the best-selling hardcover book of 2018 and is the top seller in many other countries, including Canada, Great Britain, Germany, France, Italy, Spain, Holland, Denmark, Finland, Norway and Greece.

You can’t be perfect all the time. Sometimes you just gotta let your feelings rip. We love you, Michelle!