#RelationshipFiles: Should You Change Your Religion for Bae?

What to think about before you convert.

Switching Teams - Rapper and reality star Lil Mo shocked folks when she posted a pic on her Instagram page with a headscarf and talking about about how Islam and her marriage have made her a more submissive wife. Now it’s unclear if the Christian has converted, but it brings up a pressing question: Would you ever ditch your religion for you Bae? If the answer is yes, here are some tips on converting.  By Kellee Terrell

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Switching Teams - Rapper and reality star Lil Mo shocked folks when she posted a pic on her Instagram page with a headscarf and talking about about how Islam and her marriage have made her a more submissive wife. Now it’s unclear if the Christian has converted, but it brings up a pressing question: Would you ever ditch your religion for you Bae? If the answer is yes, here are some tips on converting.  By Kellee Terrell

Photo By Photo: Lil Mo via Instagram

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Be Clear About Your Faith From the Jump - Before converting is even a topic, it’s important that before things get serious you both talk about what each of your religions mean to you, and are there expectations that if marriage becomes a reality, someone might have to walk away from their faith in order to be one. This way there are no surprises. (Photo: mapodile/Getty Images) 

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Really Think Hard About This  - First and foremost, you have to be honest with yourself and do some serious soul searching. Is this relationship worth walking away from your own religion? How important is your faith? Do you even want to do this? Can you still be together if you retain your own faith? Is this person worth it? These are the really tough questions you have to ask yourself. (Photo: Sam Edwards/Getty Images) 

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Do Your Research - Look, switching religions isn’t like deciding you want to be a vegan — you don’t just do it and it makes you so. Converting takes a lot of time and depending on the religion it can be a rigorous process that can take months or even a year. So do the research to figure this all out before you start your journey. 

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Get to Studying - In order to convert you actually need to be well versed in the religion’s rules, book, literature and practices. You might even find yourself spending 30 minutes to an hour a day studying, hours in their house of faith worshipping and even taking classes. You also have to learn the customs and traditions too. So get to it. (Photo: B-C-Designs/Getty Images) 

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Understand That You Won’t Agree With Everything - Whatever your faith is now, you know there are “rules” that you flat out don’t agree with. Most likely, this new faith will be no different especially around gender, sexual orientation and gender identity.  So just don’t be surprised if something gets you in your feelings. (Photo: PeopleImages/Getty Images) 

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Truly Understand What You Are Giving Up and Gaining - Converting to a different religion doesn’t just mean worshipping a new God, it can also mean giving up certain things like pork or dairy or it can also mean having to cover up. Whatever the case, really dig deep on understanding what those sacrifices mean. But also be open to understanding what you gain from them too. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Getty Images) 

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Prepare for the Backlash - Telling your family and friends that you are converting, especially to a religion that they may not like or understand can cause some serious rifts. If possible, remind them that your conversion isn’t about rejecting them, but about embracing something for yourself. Also, try to show them the similarities between both religions. But be clear: Acceptance will not happen overnight. (Photo: Sam Edwards/Getty Images) 

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Be Clear, This Is Your Choice - In the end, converting your religion to match your partner’s must be a decision that you make out of desire, not fear, force or not wanting to be single again. Converting has to be done because this is what you want and because you truly believe this will strengthen the bond you two have in a holier way. (Photo: Sam Edwards/Getty Images) 

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Interfaith Relationships Can Work Too - If you don't want to convert, you don't have to. And that doesn't mean you can't be with your boo either. Try mixing your traditions together, appreciating what each other's faith brings to the table. This could be a more plausible and more realistic alternative.(Photo: Christopher Futcher/Getty Images)