8 Signs That You Are a Side Chick

Are you "Becky with the good hair" or nah?

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Are You the Only One? - Beyoncé's Lemonade is an epic narrative of love and infidelity that left us all wondering, who is Becky with the good hair? We all would like to think that the relationship we're in is exclusive, but wishing something doesn’t make it true. Are you the only one or the side chick? Here are some telltale signs. By Kellee Terrell (Photo: Sonja Pacho/Corbis)

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You Never Spend Holidays With Each Other - Valentine’s Day, Christmas and Thanksgiving are meant to be spent with the people you love and who love you back. If he’s always MIA on holidays, he might have a main girlfriend he is spending those moments with instead. (Photo: Ariel Skelley/Getty Images)

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You Never Spend Holidays With Each Other - Valentine’s Day, Christmas and Thanksgiving are meant to be spent with the people you love and who love you back. If he’s always MIA on holidays, he might have a main girlfriend he is spending those moments with instead. (Photo: Ariel Skelley/Getty Images)

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You Don't Know His People - People in healthy and real relationships meet each other’s friends and family, whether at family functions, birthday parties or happy hours. If you haven’t met them and they live in the same city... Houston, you have a problem. (Photo: Jupiterimages/Getty Images)

Don’t Make it About the Other - It’s a cliché for a reason: “It’s not you, it’s me,” is a good strategy for being honest about why you’re leaving while simultaneously decreasing the chance of an argument popping off. Focus on how the relationship makes you feel — not on listing every single thing they’ve ever done to upset you. You’re already leaving, right? There’s no need to be mean about it. (Photo: Eric Raptosh Photography/Getty Images)

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You Only Hook Up at Your Place - He doesn’t take you out on any dates in public and only wants to meet at your place. Does this sound right to you? (Photo: Eric Raptosh Photography/Getty Images)

There’s an App for That? - Whether you want a reminder to do your self breast exams or need help managing your treatment schedule, there are apps to help take excellent care of your, ahem, assets. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel and Kellee Terrell (Photo: Hero Images/Getty Images)

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He Only Calls You for Sex - He won’t take you out — movies, dinner or bowling — but can always find time to have sex. He is using you for one thing and one thing only. (Photo: Hero Images/Getty Images)

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Be on Time - Whether it’s a lunch date with your best friend, meeting with your boss or a doctor's appointment for a checkup, avoid being late. Being on time is not only considerate but it shows you value the other person’s time just as much as you value your own. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Getty Images)

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He Doesn’t Show Up When He's Supposed To - Let’s just say he does make plans with you, but constantly stands you up with no explanations or apologies. If he gets ghost a lot, that’s a serious red flag. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Getty Images)

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You Have No Clue Where He Stays - He knows where you live and comes often, but you have never seen, been invited to or been in his place. Ask yourself: What is he hiding? A girl? Wife? Kids? (Photo: Image Source / Getty Images)

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Uh…He’s Married - He may tell you he is getting divorced or is separated, but a lot of times, that isn’t the truth. Sometimes married men want to have their cake and eat it too. Enter with caution. (Photo: Laura Doss/Corbis)

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Uh…He’s Married - He may tell you he is getting divorced or is separated, but a lot of times, that isn’t the truth. Sometimes married men want to have their cake and eat it too. Enter with caution. (Photo: Laura Doss/Corbis)

Emotionally Unavailable - If he is responsive and admits his previous wrongdoings, then this is a good step in the right direction. On the other hand, if he shuts down or refuses to discuss what happened in the past, then he is stuck in his stubborn ways or not emotionally invested. Either way, his lack of responsiveness and emotional availability are questionable.  (Photo: Image Source/Getty Images)

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He Refuses to Make You Guys Official - Some guys may just not want to settle down for a range of reasons, but if you have dedicated a lot of time and effort into a dude and he doesn’t want to commit, perhaps it’s because he already has something else at home and/or isn’t that into you long term. (Photo: Image Source/Getty Images)

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Remember Your Worth - If you consciously go into a relationship knowing that you are the side chick, that’s your business. But if that's not your goal, please know that you deserve and are worth much more than what he is giving you. (Photo: David Jakle/Corbis)