How to Get What You Want in Bed
Try these strategies to have the best sex of your life.
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Get Yours! - Characters in movies may have picture-perfect sex every time without saying a word, but in real life, having a love connection doesn’t mean you can read each other’s minds. So if you’re not getting everything you want in bed, it’s your right — no, your duty — to speak up. Try one of these strategies to have the best sex of your life. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: Getty Images/STOCK)
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Time it right. - You know your man best, so let his personality be your guide in picking the right time to let him know what you need. For some couples, that’s right in the moment, while for others, you might want to save the talk until you’re outside the bedroom to avoid making him feel judged. Whatever you do, don’t do it right before sex because that would just create anxiety, better known as the biggest libido killer ever. (Photo: Justin Horrocks/Getty Images)
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Be nice. - If you decide to talk to him during a neutral moment, start by telling him something you like about what he does in bed. Then tell him what you’d love him to do more of, while sticking to “I language” to take the pressure off his ego. For example, “I love it when you kiss the back of my neck. But I don’t really get excited when you put your tongue in my ear.”
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Start earlier. - Yes, we all want more touching before the main event, that’s a given. But the real foreplay should start well before your clothes come off. It obviously can’t happen every time you do the do, but whenever possible, kick things off with a great meal, a good convo, a walk for ice cream — anything that makes you feel connected to your man outside the bedroom will make you feel more connected when you’re naked. (Photo: Skip ODonnell/GettyImages)
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Don’t fake it. - Just say no to the faux “O.” Sure, it may put an end to a seemingly unending session, but this is the worst thing you can do. You’ll make him think that he’s giving you the business even when he’s not. The result: he’ll keep using the same tired methods every time you get together. (Photo: Justin Horrocks/Getty Images)
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