How to Move Forward After Infidelity

You can push past the pain.

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Lemonade  - Beyoncé's Lemonade chronicles a woman’s journey through discovering her partner’s infidelity and eventually forgiving him for his transgressions. Are you up for the challenge of moving forward together after your man steps out? Here, the steps to making lemonade when life gives you lemons. By Kenrya Rankin (Photo: HBO, Parkwood Entertainment, Columbia Records)

Go Away  - Or send him away. Whoever leaves, you need a chance to be by yourself to experience the full range of emotions and do some serious processing. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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Go Away  - Or send him away. Whoever leaves, you need a chance to be by yourself to experience the full range of emotions and do some serious processing. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

Be Angry  - Anger is a completely rational emotion to experience after a betrayal. Don’t deny yourself a chance to explore that and any other feelings you have. (Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

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Be Angry  - Anger is a completely rational emotion to experience after a betrayal. Don’t deny yourself a chance to explore that and any other feelings you have. (Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

Mourn  - After you work through the initial rage, you will likely feel sad. Take the time to grieve the relationship you thought you would have so that you can figure out how your relationship will work moving forward. (Photo: LWA-Sharie Kennedy/Corbis)

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Mourn  - After you work through the initial rage, you will likely feel sad. Take the time to grieve the relationship you thought you would have so that you can figure out how your relationship will work moving forward. (Photo: LWA-Sharie Kennedy/Corbis)

Be Honest  - Tell him that there is no way forward if he isn’t able to answer any questions you have about what happened. But don’t feel like you need to know the gross little details if you don’t want to, and don’t expect him to be self-aware enough to tell you why it happened at this point. (Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

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Be Honest  - Tell him that there is no way forward if he isn’t able to answer any questions you have about what happened. But don’t feel like you need to know the gross little details if you don’t want to, and don’t expect him to be self-aware enough to tell you why it happened at this point. (Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

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Now You Be Honest  - Figure out exactly how his infidelity makes you feel — then tell him. And reserve the right to change your mind or update him on your feelings down the road. (Photo: Corbis)

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Now You Be Honest  - Figure out exactly how his infidelity makes you feel — then tell him. And reserve the right to change your mind or update him on your feelings down the road. (Photo: Corbis)

Decide If You Want to Stay  - Now that you’ve both made yourselves vulnerable, it’s time for each of you to decide if you want to continue with your relationship. Know that it’s OK, and normal, to go back and forth on this point for a while. Take your time. (Photo: JPM/Corbis)

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Decide If You Want to Stay  - Now that you’ve both made yourselves vulnerable, it’s time for each of you to decide if you want to continue with your relationship. Know that it’s OK, and normal, to go back and forth on this point for a while. Take your time. (Photo: JPM/Corbis)

Eliminate the Side Piece  - You will not be able to move forward if you’re worried that every text or “dinner with a colleague” is really a secret meet-up. (Photo: HBO, Parkwood Entertainment, Columbia Records)

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Eliminate the Side Piece  - You will not be able to move forward if you’re worried that every text or “dinner with a colleague” is really a secret meet-up. (Photo: HBO, Parkwood Entertainment, Columbia Records)

Draft Help - If you could address your issues on your own, you would have already. See a counselor to figure out what broke down in your relationship and craft a plan to fix it.(Photo: Wavebreakmedia LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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Draft Help - If you could address your issues on your own, you would have already. See a counselor to figure out what broke down in your relationship and craft a plan to fix it.(Photo: Wavebreakmedia LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

Remake Your Relationship  - Once you’ve worked through your issues, it’s time to make changes to how you relate to each other. If you feel like you can’t trust him, perhaps you need an understanding where he has to answer his phone every time you call. If he feels like you don’t make time for him, you could schedule regular time together. (Photo: Artiga Photo/Corbis)

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Remake Your Relationship  - Once you’ve worked through your issues, it’s time to make changes to how you relate to each other. If you feel like you can’t trust him, perhaps you need an understanding where he has to answer his phone every time you call. If he feels like you don’t make time for him, you could schedule regular time together. (Photo: Artiga Photo/Corbis)

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Take Your Time  - Know that the process of healing your relationship will not happen overnight. Allow time to rebuild trust and intimacy. (Photo: Artiga Photo/Corbis)

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Take Your Time  - Know that the process of healing your relationship will not happen overnight. Allow time to rebuild trust and intimacy. (Photo: Artiga Photo/Corbis)

Let Go  - Eventually — once the pain is no longer acute and the distrust is no longer biting — you’ll have to forgive him and make the decision to be completely vulnerable with him again. Your relationship will not have room to flourish if you’re constantly suspicious and he feels like a prisoner. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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Let Go  - Eventually — once the pain is no longer acute and the distrust is no longer biting — you’ll have to forgive him and make the decision to be completely vulnerable with him again. Your relationship will not have room to flourish if you’re constantly suspicious and he feels like a prisoner. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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