The Dos and Don’ts of Sexting

Follow these tips for stimulating text conversation.

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Let Your Thumbs Do the Talking

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Do Adopt a “No New Friends” Policy

Do Consider Your Motives - If you’re hoping to get together at the end of the convo, then sext with that in mind—getting hot and heavy quickly and making your intensions known. If you just want to tease him a little in preparation for next time, be clear (and don’t do it at 3 a.m.). He will feel rejected if you get him revved up and turn him down when he says he’s in the car on the way over. (Photo: Steve Prezant/Blend Images/Corbis)

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Do Consider Your Motives

Know Your Triggers - Pay attention to when you are more prone to lashing out to certain situations or comments that may not have meant to be hurtful. Sometimes our past trauma can create triggers that invoke that past. (Photo: 68/George Doyle/Ocean/Corbis)

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Don't Overpromise

Do Compliment Him - Tell him how much you love to see him with his shirt off, especially when he’s pressed up against you. Or that his lips are so sexy you can hardly stop daydreaming about them. You’ll stroke his ego and his desire at the same time. (Photo: Dylan Ellis/ Corbis)

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Do Compliment Him

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Don’t Be Afraid of Being Too Direct - Seriously, it’s hard to be too frank about sex when there is a man involved. Need a surefire way to start? Try “You were in one of my dreams last night.” He’ll ask what he was doing. Take it from there… (Photo: Tim Pannell/Corbis)

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Don’t Be Afraid of Being Too Direct

Don't Send Photos - It might be tempting to send him a picture of a prime body part or two, but there is just too much of a risk that it will get out. Even Snapchat can’t stop him from taking screenshots of your private moments. If you still feel compelled, do not include your face. (Photo: 2/Dylan Ellis/Ocean/Corbis)

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Don't Send Photos

Do reminisce. - Talking about one of your greatest hits is a great way to get him excited. Tell him how much you loved it when he ______, or how you can’t wait until you can ______ again. Be very specific. (Photo: Edith Held/Corbis)

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Do reminisce.

Don’t be afraid of fantasies. - Sexting is a great way to clue him into your fantasies and get exactly what you want in bed. So tell him just how much you want to get it in on your desk after hours, or what kinky costume you want to wear next time. (Photo: Radius Images/Corbis)

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Don’t be afraid of fantasies.